Wow
It's pretty unbelievable how big Cambra is already. I think she looks so big because she started so small and also because all of the baby weight she has added has been in her belly.
One of the things that I find fascinating is how blatantly interested people are in giving me advice these days. Even people who don't have kids find ways of making comments and suggestions for how to best raise a child. And, until you are having children, you may never know the whole "raise children the right way" industry that exists to profit off of your new found joy. How to this and how to that books, CDs, web pages, DVDs, and even Blogs! Seems like we as a species have survived for mellinia without all of this....I guess it is just capitalism at its finest.
I ask myself why is it that if we spend all of this time working so hard to be perfect parents, that our society does not show any signs of making significant improvements. I mean, college kids (who I work with all of the time) are certainly incredibly bright, motivated to do well, and knwoledgable....but they are also incredibly sheltered and totally unable to put into practice many of the indeals that they hold dear. I look at the new hipness of parenting and suggest that the outcome is not totally good....my students care more about being accepted than almost anything else. The highest virtue they hold is connectedness to each other. Everything else is an incredibly distant second. Not all good, not all bad either.
One of the "how to parenting" books that I like the best has a web site I linked to this blog called "Be Prepared". It is a McGuyver like book about fatherhood and I enjoy it, mostly because it is useful info presented in a way that makes me laugh out lowd. For example, there is a whole section in the book devoted to "Returning to Sex". This is, of course, a really important topic and a sensitive issue for many couples. One of the points it takes great effort to lay out is the one about my spouses breasts. It says, "I know it is ironic that when your spouses breasts are at their largest, fullest, and most tempting, that they are off limits to you, but they are. Your wife's breasts are on lease to your child. Treat your wife and your child well and after three to four months, you may be able to negotiate a time share arrangement with the ownership."
Wow, now that's good advice.
Anyway, all of this to say that I have decided to stop reading too much about being a perfect parent. It is already drawing my attention away from actually being a good parent/husband. I figure I have had great role models and I have a fabulous wife, how can I go wrong.